Sometimes children and teenagers can feel overwhelmed and worried by what is happening around them, what they read on social media, see in the news or hear from others. We have listed some great resources below and these should be helpful for anyone trying to find the right words when talking to their children.  

Talking about distressing news

Barnardo’s has a great resource on its website, which breaks down helpful advice on how to discuss distressing news with the young people in your life.

It covers:

• Age-appropriate conversations and information
• Giving young people space to express their thoughts and feelings
• The importance of questions
• Taking positive actions

 You can read the full resource and more here.

Helping children process the horrors of war

In response to conflicts around the world, expert child psychologists from the British Psychological Society’s Division of Educational and Child Psychology has provided advice to help parents have difficult conversations and engage with their children’s questions and emotions.

You can read the full blog post here.

Take a breath – children and young people

Because of differing experiences, upbringings, ages and personalities, all children are different. Relate NI has published guidance on bearing this in mind when talking to children and supporting them through tough times. This includes:

• Sticking to facts, communicating calmly and responsibly, and using simple language.
• Dispelling myths. Depending on a child’s age, you could, together, consult reliable sources and establish facts.
• Letting them know that they can come and talk to you if they are worried about things they have seen or heard from friends or on social media.
• Continuing to check in on how your kids are feeling. Things are changing and their feelings may be doing the same.

You can read more here.

Other information

NICCY

If you are concerned about the safety of a young person or young people, the NI Commissioner for Children and Young People advise contacting the Social Services Gateway Teams or the PSNI. NICCY can also take complaints from young people, parents or guardians if services are not being delivered properly. Find out more here.  

The Commissioner is also interested in hearing directly from young people and families, especially if you are concerned that a young person in your life is being manipulated into taking part in criminal activity, feeling influenced by disinformation on social media or getting caught up in worrying or dangerous behaviour. You can get in touch by phone 02890311616 or by email info@niccy.org.

Childine

Children and young people can call Childline any time, for free, on 0800 1111.

Childline also has some great resources for young people on a range of topics including:

• Bullying
• Relationships
• Understanding your feelings

Don’t hesitate to ask a professional

Always remember that there’s no need to worry alone. If you are concerned about your own mental health or wellbeing – or your children’s mental health or wellbeing – speaking with your GP is a good place to start.

• If you’re feeling distressed, call Lifeline on 0808 808 8000 to speak with a counsellor immediately.
• Inspire’s Advocacy for All services can support you with mental health-related issues and information.
• Find support here.